The quality of your relationships with others, your happiness and success in life and even your bank account is nothing else but the measure of time you invest in personal development.
Now you have the opportunity to invest your time wisely in reading this article and you can finally solve the dilemma about what personal development is and why it is so important.
I would say that people who don’t invest time to develop their personality can never grow. And if they don’t grow they stay small.
Same as a plant need water to grow, people need personal development to grow as a human beings.
If you don’t grow, you die. If your relationship is not growing, it is dying. If your bank account is not growing, it’s dying.
To grow you need to learn. How much time in your life have you spent learning how to improve your character?
Please keep reading as some of the life lessons that I will share with you can open your eyes.
So, What Is Personal Development?
How hard is it to go through life if you have big obstacles in your way? It’s hard.
If you imagine that the obstacles in your way are big walls, then personal development is a way to break these walls and clear the space in front of you so that you can go through your life easier.
If you have a clear space in front of you, you can just flow through life and you don’t have to struggle anymore and feel stuck behind big walls that seem too big to pass through.
Personal development is not just a way of solving problems in your life; it is a way of growing. It is your way to a better life, to become an improved version of yourself.
If you think that you don’t have to work on yourself, than you definitely do need to!
If You Need To Work On Yourself, Does That Mean That You Are Not Good Enough?
On the contrary. Only the best people in the world keep working on themselves all the time.
By deciding to step into the world of personal development you are on the right way to the top!
If you are reading this, it means that you are curious to know more about personal development and you should be proud of yourself for that.
The most successful people in the world always invest time to work on themselves. Even if they have millions and billions of dollars, they still continue to learn.
Paul C. Brunson who worked with two billionaires (Oprah and Enver Yucel) said that both of them dedicate a significant amount of time to personal development.
If Oprah thinks that she still needs to learn new skills, you probably need to as well.
In fact, your whole life will never be enough to learn everything you can learn and that’s why you can never say that you already know everything.
All successful business coaches that I have personally met said that they dedicate at least 30 minutes of their time every day to personal development. Some of them dedicate even much more time.
And all of them are super busy and super successful, but that is exactly the reason why they are successful – because they dedicate their time to personal development.
They said that they need to feed their brain with positive things and new information.
And since every day is a new story, they continue feed their brain each new day.
That is the same reason why you should “feed your brain” with positive and educational things every day.
The result of this would be that you are happier, you are motivated, you are inspired, you have more energy, you have better quality relationships, you are not complaining anymore, you don’t worry anymore, you inspire others, etc.
There are so many benefits that come as a result of constant learning.
Since I started to learn new things every day, I am more inspired than ever before. I have more ideas and I understand myself better.
Personal development is a way to better understand yourself, your unique personality and potentials, your strengths and weaknesses, your aspirations and your talents.
It is a way to improve every aspect of your life. It is a way to realize so many different possibilities and to achieve more than you ever thought was possible.
But there is one condition – you need to have ambition!
If you have ambition to learn new things, you will find a way to learn them! If you are open minded that means that you can learn anything you want.
If you are reading this article, it already means that you have the ambition to learn new things. That’s why I want to teach you some of the powerful things I have learned and experienced about personal development.
If you are a beginner in personal development, there are few things that you need to understand first.
1. The more you learn about yourself, the better life you will be able to create.
To understand yourself, you need to be able to know why you are doing the things in your life. One of the life-changing things that I’ve learned from Tony Robbins is that all humans have 6 basic human needs.
Four of them are personality needs and two of them are spiritual needs.
Personality needs include a need for certainty, need for variety, need for significance and need for connection and love.
Most people live life meeting these 4 needs. But the last two needs are the one that will determine your success in life.
These last two needs are spiritual needs – the need for growth and contribution.
I believe that the only way to grow is to develop our character and that’s why personal development is the key to success in life. It is our spiritual need and ability to contribute beyond ourselves.
All humans will fulfill 4 basic human needs during their life, either in a positive or negative way, but those who fulfill these last two needs are the ones who change the world.
When you understand these human needs, you can decide what kind of person you want to be.
2. For everything that you are doing in your life, there is a reason why you are doing it.
Once you understand your needs, you will understand your actions, and if you understand your actions, you will understand your habits.
Important part of personal development is to get rid of any negative habits. To do that, it is essential to understand:
- why you created it
- why you are keeping it.
3. Any problem in your life that you keep gives you some hidden benefit of keeping it.
One of the greatest life-changing truths that I discovered learning about personal development is that we keep our problems because we have some hidden benefits for keeping them and usually by keeping small problems we avoid to solve bigger problems in life.
Problems are part of life, but we need to choose how to deal with them.
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional!
Personal development and self-introspection can give you the answer on all questions and problems that you have.
We are very often stuck in our minds when we have a problem and are not able to find the solution. That’s why we need to educate ourselves to get a completely new outlook on our own situation.
By reading personal development books, not only have I found the answers to my questions, but I have also learned how to create better questions.
I have completely improved every aspect of my life – health, relationship, career, happiness etc.
Where to Start?
If you are new to personal development and you want to start to develop your personality and character, you might not know where to start.
It can be difficult to choose where to start because you have so many options. Usually when we have too many options, we don’t choose any.
Personal development is a huge industry and has a lot to offer, from online courses, books, yoga, fitness and meditation programs to life coaching and individual counseling.
Start small. It is better that you start with something then nothing.
Invest 15 Minutes of Every Day in Personal Development
You should start by deciding to begin every day with something positive.
You can follow “Mind of a Winner” on Facebook, Twitter, Google+ or Pinterest. We will put something inspirational, motivational and educational on these sites every day.
On MindOfWinner.com you can learn how to change your mindset and how to achieve success in your personal and business life.
If you spend at least 15 minutes every day learning something new, that means that you are investing time in yourself. Good investments have returns. The return of this investment will be a better quality of life.
Cope With Your Fears
Another important thing what you will need to work on during the process of personal development is to learn how to overcome your fears.
The biggest human fear is the fear of public speaking. It’s greater even than the fear of death.
If you are one who is terrified of public speaking, you should speak more during public events so you can learn how to get rid of this fear.
I had a fear of public speaking, that’s why I decided to go to many events where I was forced to speak on stage. During one event to get out of our comfort zones, we had to sing on the stage for 1 minute. If you have experienced public singing, public speaking doesn’t seem so terrifying anymore :).
Another thing you can do to get rid of the fear of public speaking is to join the Toastmaster club. I was a member of Toastmaster in different countries and it’s very likely that there is Toastmaster club close to where you live.
You can also learn more about public speaking by reading about it, but the only way to deal with this fear is to go and do it. The more you practice, the better you become.
Attend a Live Event
The more difficult thing that you can do to learn more about personal development (from my experience this is the best thing you can do) is to go to a live event.
There are 3 main reasons why I think live events are better than anything else:
- You can learn not only from the experts, but also from the many other people who are attending the same event.
- You have opportunity to ask questions.
- The energy of a group is contagious – 1 or 2 day event can give you so much energy that you will feel inspired months after.
I will usually try to go to business events, but during every business event, you spend most of the time learning about changing your mindset. Mindset of a Winner is essential for any business success.